Last week’s sermon considered the contemplative practice of reciting the focus of ‘a rule of life’ via the 176 lines of Psalm 119. Teach me, Lord, the way of your decrees, that I may follow it to the end.
‘A Rule of Life’ is a set of
purposeful practices that we consciously embrace and live in our everyday
lives. The practices are chosen to deepen our relationships – with the Holy,
with others, with creation, with ourselves. A rule of life both expresses and
guides our values, beliefs, and faith.
The theme of today’s
scriptures is forgiveness. In your everyday life, in your ‘rule of life,’ do
you regularly practice forgiveness?
My grandparents attended the
Presbyterian Church in their village. On the occasions I went with them, I
would get tripped up in the Lord’s Prayer. Like we do here, I would say, forgive
us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us. My
grandparents and their congregation prayed, forgive us our debts as we
forgive our debtors.
As I reflect on the practice of forgiveness, I appreciate the nuance of praying, debt and debtor. I get it. I understand. Who among us is not familiar with debt and repayment? Our culture is very familiar with debt. In 2026, consumer debt in Canada has risen to $2.6 trillion, which includes mortgages, student loans, lines of credit, car payments, credit cards. In this time of National generational building projects, the Federal government debt is over $1 trillion, combined with that of provinces debt surpasses $2.4 trillion.
Debt to be me is transactional. If I borrow from you, I am indebted to you until I repay what is owed. It works with the loaning and borrowing of money, but also, includes the owing of favours, reciprocal invitations to coffee, the exchange of gifts. There is a transactional component to relationships - a debt and debtor – in the give and take between people in relation. In a relationship there is always something left-hanging to be reciprocated, not that it has to be but that it is there as a gift of opportunity to reciprocate. I understand and experience the reciprocity of relationship with a contented joy.
I receive kind words from my
partner when I leave to go to work, arriving home I give my partner a hug. Debt
satisfied. I feed my cat and care for her, she cozies up with me when I am sad.
I talk with a friend to commiserate about a situation, they support me – a week
later my friend calls needing a ride to an appointment. That which is owing
being gifted back. The transactions between persons becomes deeper with each
action, until it is no longer debt or owing but continual connected
relationship. This is forgiveness in its fullest, no tallied debts, simply connected
relationship.
For me, the fullness of forgiveness,
comes close, when I choose to interpret my debt repayment from a perspective of
gratitude. What I have received, I return with love.
Earlier this year, the Lutheran
World Federation published, Together We Pray. The book is a series of reflections
and prayers contemplating the petitions of the Lord’s Prayer. It was written by
women leaders throughout the LWF communion. Contemplating, forgive us our
trespasses, Bp. Emerita Jana Jeruma-Gringerga, of the Lutheran Church in
Great Britain wrote:
Debt - “Each human person owes something to God – be it sacrifices of praise and thanksgiving not offered, contrition where we have missed the marks that God’s will and grace set before us, or sorrow for our feeble flame of faith-“
It is an interesting thought
is it not – about debt – as that which is left undone, consciously or
unconsciously. Do we leave God waiting? God has given, lent, graced, loved ---
and is waiting for a response. Are we in debt, owing God a response? Perhaps a
“thank you for the sense of peace I had during that difficult situation,”
“thank you for the coincidence of meeting an old friend,” “thank you for the beauty
of creation,” ”thank you for the gift of another day” –
Perhaps we owe God an, “I’m
sorry for not listening to the nudge to take that person to dinner,” “sorry for
not following the feeling to check in with a neighbour,” ”sorry for ignoring
you in the child needing help.”
Perhaps debt is accumulating
as a lack of response, a feeble flame of faith, as we choose not to repay the
grace we have received through the cross, through the creation and essence of
life – not because we have too, but because we want too.
And this ‘want too’ is grown
through a rule of life that practices forgiveness as a form of gratitude, where
one becomes so filled with thankfulness, they notice the marks God sets before
them, where joy abounds in faithful relational living. Owing no one, no
creature, no thing because we have a practice of reciprocity – a fullness of
forgiveness.
Before we can live the
fullness of forgiveness Bp. Emerita continues:
“The Forgiveness Project
says that it is ‘first and foremost a personal journey, with no set rules or
time limits,’ so a road we each travel at our own speed and in our own way.
Certainly our own healing from hurt depends also on our willingness to let go
of the wounds, to allow them to heal rather than picking at the scabs.”
– p68,
Bp. Emerita Jana Jeruma-Gringerga, LC in Great Britain
Peter asked how many times must
one forgive. Practicing forgiveness is not yet a rule of life for Peter. Jesus’
response - offer limitless forgiveness, offer human forgiveness to mirror God’s
unlimited mercy. Peter will find out at the cross, to what lengths God will go
to show unlimited mercy. Peter has yet to grow into a rule of life that is
directed by Christ’s resurrection, a forgiveness that is a practice of
gratitude from the very heart of one’s being.
This week is the Lutheran commemoration
day for Dag Hammarskjold, once secretary-General of United Nations. His life
was lived from a ‘rule of life’ that was practiced in diplomatic service and
personal spirituality. His faith centered on Jesus Christ. This relationship
gave meaning to his life and reflected in action in the world. He wrote: Forgiveness
is the answer to the child’s dream of a miracle by which what is broken is made
whole again, what is soiled is made clean again. (Markings, 2006)
Turning again to the LWF,
Together We Pray, we deepen our understanding of the practice of
forgiveness by praying the prayer of Rev. Dr. Nelavala Ganan Prasuna, South
Andra Lutheran Church, India,
“Our Gracious and Merciful Mother and Father, We recognize our need for your forgiveness as we draw near to you and the significance of also forgiving others. We are aware that we are flawed humans who are prone to error and fall short of your desired level. Yet, you offer us pardon and redemption through Jesus Christ out of your eternal love.
We also acknowledge the weight of your words, “forgive us as we have forgiven others.” We understand that our forgiveness by you is deeply intertwined with our ability to extend forgiveness to those who have wronged us. In this moment, we bring before you the hurts and wounds inflicted upon us by others.
Dear Parent God, please help us to let go the wrath and bitterness we have been holding in. Please give us the courage to continue to overlook those who have harmed us, just as you have overlooked us. We are aware that showing forgiveness entails giving up our desire for retribution and letting you heal our wounded spirits rather than tolerating the wrongdoing or ignoring the damage.
Dear Holy Spirit, knowing the depth of our suffering, empower us to love ourselves and our enemies, to bless ourselves and to bless those who curse us. We pray for our forgiveness, and for help to forgive others and view them through the eyes of compassion and realization that they too are in need of your forgiveness and grace.
Our God, we ask for healing and reconciliation through this act of forgiveness. Restore our interpersonal relationships and our broken hearts. May your parental love and forgiveness flow through us, transforming not only our lives but also the lives of those around us. Amen.
Pg 74-75, Rev. Dr. Nelavala Ganan Prasuna, South Andra Lutheran Church, India
*Here is the like if you would like to read, LWF's Together We Pray
Together We Pray: women’s prayer book | The Lutheran World Federation
