Friday, October 9, 2026

A Steward's Garment

 Matthew 22: 1-14


Oct. 15th is the commemoration day of Spanish mystic and spiritual reformer Teresa of Avila. Teresa was a Carmelite nun and teacher in the 1500s. Teresa was disgusted with the laisse-faire attitude and complacency amongst other nuns in her order. Teresa felt that the monastery sisters were lax in their rule of life. Time was spent being tour guides for a growing number of visitors and listening to frivolous concerns of the socially elite and those with political power. The grounds were filled with ruckus conversation and busy energy; distractions. Teresa worked to reform her monastic community and reconnect them to their original purpose. The monastery was to be a place enclosed from the world, where prayer, meditation, and devotion were unceasing. She taught obedience to Christ and a disciplined rule of life. She was known for encouraging her sisters to identify with those who are poor by not wearing shoes.

 

The end of today’s parable is harsh (Mt. 22: 11-14). The king comes along to greet guests and notices a man not wearing a wedding garment and asks, “Friend, how did you get in here without a wedding robe?’ Shocked and rendered speechless, the man – one called friend - is thrown out into the shadowy abyss.

 

Friend. A person one knows and trusts. A mutual bond with a reciprocity of affection, personal regard, care.

Friend. A person one is comfortable with and likely to invite to Thanksgiving dinner, or as guest to a wedding.

Friend. Names a relationship.

Friend in the parable identifies that the king knows the person not wearing a wedding garment and the person knows the king. They are more than acquaintances.

 

Jesus’ parable is the second course following the unpalatable parable we heard last week. If you recall the parable served up violence. The workers cooked up a plan to take over a vineyard. They acted entitled, hungry with greed they were unwilling to share the harvest, even with the owner.

The wedding banquet parable is a dish seemingly served-up-cold.

The parable is bold, provocative, and escalates an already simmering pot.

Jesus is openly inditing the Pharisees and religious authorities.

The charges are faithlessness, incompetence, complacency, non-existent stewardship, spiritual unpreparedness

And contempt!

What had been a recipe for kindom living on earth – the commandments for relationship with God, each other, and all creatures – had been over-interpreted, under-practiced, and hearts had turned away. People believed they could live relying only on themself, controlling the rules, and enacting justice as they determine fit. The parable describes godly-food left on their plates. People refused God’s invitation and said ‘no’ to being the hosts of God’s abundant table. Being a host means living in covenant and requires receiving and sharing mercy, inviting and stewarding earth’s bounty, thanksgiving and thanks-living with one’s whole heart.

 

The context of the hearers of the parable is volatile. A discouraged Matthew writes about the upheaval in the Jerusalem community: Jews, Christ followers, the Law abiding, the zealous, false prophets, many teachers – the people are beyond civil conversation. There are arguments and teachings, doubling-down on laws, judging others’ righteousness. People eat in their own cliques, their specific groups because food and eating together is wrought with difficulty. There are barriers – clean and unclean food and people - not eating together has shattered community.

Conflict is on the edge of erupting, not just the squabbles of these groups of God believers, but from the Roman Empire who is watching the growing volatility of the place. So, the Empire burns the Temple in Jerusalem. This is 40 years after Jesus, but in the time when Matthew wrote this gospel. Matthew and Matthew’s audience are at a loss as the destruction of the Temple leaves no place for the Holy bread to go. There is no place to take harvest offerings. The priests and their families are no longer sustained by the people.

In such a muddle – the people have lost their way – going about daily life in a clouded anxious existence.

They have lost much and in the chaos that ensues, miss the rot of an Empire that continues to pillage joy, steal peace, rape abundant life.

The rot of Empire has soured people, baked in fear, and sold the fast-food values of the day.

In response to Empire and empire habits that have contaminated God-follower community, Jesus boldly proclaims that God, remaining steadfast in love and mercy, lavishly sends invitations to the wedding banquet. Jesus amplifies the invitation being made by repeating and repeating it.

The parable -when it arrives at the king speaking to the friend- is the plate of food that has turned cold.  The friend (the one who identifies as friend of God or friend of Jesus) is found empty. Whole-hearted commitment, if it was ever present, has been put on the shelf. The friend has not eaten of the abundance of relationship or been fed by communion with others, with God; and so is naked of God’s purpose, not dressed in joy, peace, or abundant life.

The magnitude of what is being conveyed is shocking to those who believe they have a seat at the table.

 

Jesus’ audience  - not unlike the ‘righteous’ of today - wanted others to dress and act a certain way. There were requirements to belong and participate in that which was deemed holy. Jesus turns the table back on those who were smug with their seat at the table, condemning wedding garments branded with righteousness, sequined with wealth and power, including badges of honour and status, and the good-deeds cape to exemplify ‘look-at-me-I-am-better-than-you.’ These fancy clothes end up not being the wedding garment accepted at the wedding – not the dress code for God’s banquet.

 

The parable does not describe what the dress code is because listeners know the commandments, know the covenant, know the words of the prophets. The bold parable is a turning of the table, to signify a need to the listeners to turn the heart and will, to focus once again on relationship and on invitation to live into the promise of kindom – where joy, peace, and abundant life are present (not overcome by chaos or traits of Empire).

 

At the beginning I highlighted Teresa of Avila, who invited her sisters to identify with the poor by not wearing shoes. Not wearing shoes - is this an example of the wedding garment for God’s banquet?

When I preside at wedding rehearsals and weddings, I wear many layers of garments. Every family is different. Each comes with requests, demands, and expectations- not just those of the wedding couple, but everyone who has been invited. Conflict and negotiation are common. Self-centredness and spectacle are often in the forefront. I wear garments of patience, grace, mercy, presence, gift, relationship, and invitation.

Friends, before God, and with a community are invited to God’s heart where partner love is a symbol for a deeper love for all and in all. Physically families come in all sorts of garments, some dressy, some not so much. They also come dressed in thankfulness, love, and joy; others come dressed in forgiveness, civility, sorrow. The invitation to all is to feast at the table, to experience all the feelings and receive the gifts of the banquet – to be filled with abundance and then go out in thankfulness, love, and joy and share the same.

The wedding garments I put on for the celebration of weddings – are the same that I am called to wear everyday. Patience, mercy, grace, presence. Thankfulness.


Barefoot Teresa prays:

May He be blessed for ever, who has bestowed such great graces on one who has responded so ill to blessings so great!                        -TofA “Life” chpt 29



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A Steward's Garment

  Matthew 22: 1-14 Oct. 15 th is the commemoration day of Spanish mystic and spiritual reformer Teresa of Avila. Teresa was a Carmelite n...