When
young people come to me requesting to get married, I have a little project that
I have them do individually that has them consider their family tree, family
traits, beliefs, and the relationships within the family. The couple comes
together to share and talk through their individual projects, with guiding
reflection questions from me. At the end
of the session, I ask where the couple sees themselves in 5 years, then 10
years, and 50 years?
Along
the way there have been couples who don’t include the partner in their 5 year
explanation of where they will be or what they will be doing. Those marriages usually don’t last.
In
small towns and rural parishes, the answer – more than once- has been: ‘on our veranda,
side-by-side in our rocking chairs.’ On further reflection – the couple points
to ‘together’, whether that means in their own house, in an apt., a nursing
home or hospital room. And if nothing else, side-by-side, in rocking chairs.
Isn’t
that a beautiful image? To come to the latter years of one’s life with a relationship that can just be; where one can sit quietly
in another’s company and simply watch the view; in peace, comfort, and
contentment?
This
morning we were told the story of Abram, along with wife Sarai, and nephew Lot,
packing up their households and going to a God-promised-homeland, a place
flowing with milk and honey --- a future dream where one can sit on their own
veranda, side-by-side, with the people they love and watch their fields, the
land; in peace, comfort, and contentment. Abram was a man of means. He had
the resources to be able to leave on a journey that would take months. He had
pack animals to carry their possessions, provisions, and the people who went with
him: family, hired-hands, and slaves.
In
the story we hear of Abram’s complaint of lacking an heir. It seems crazy to take the risk of such a
journey, to go to a new place, when one has no heir to inherit the land. Reading
between the lines of the story, it is not that Abram doesn’t have an heir that
is the most upsetting to him, it is an internal prejudice that his heir would
be Eliezer of Damascus. In the Bible people whom one respects are referred to
as so-and-so-the-son-of-so-and-so; here Eliezer is not the son of…; he is
mentioned fatherless as, Eliezer of Damascus.
This is prejudicial language given to a slave, someone who is property;
to use this term is to see a person as socially dead.
Regardless
of this hiccup - Abram, whether or not he has a child, has the resources to
live the ‘rocking-chair dream.’
But
for many in Abram’s time a ‘rocking-chair dream’ was beyond imaginable. To lack
children -an heir- would be problematic and cause a couple a lot of stress and
fear. It had nothing to do with having
someone to hand on possessions to, but rather having someone to care for them as
they aged, or provide food and shelter if they became sick or unable to work; grown
sons were social security for wives/mothers and young children who had no
income of their own. An heir was their social security net.
Translating
the Abram story to the Canadian context, I think about the movement of people
during pandemic. People leaving urban centres or busy lives--- being able to
work from home was the incentive to take the opportunity to buy homes on the
East Coast. It takes resources to move from one province to another. I have a
couple of friends who did this very thing. My friends have an image that life
will be good – flowing with milk and honey- as they transition towards
retirement. They have the resources to believe in ‘a rocking-chair dream.’
But
for many a ‘rocking-chair dream’ is beyond imaginable. Hardworking people in
regular jobs are using more than 50% of their paychecks for rent. Rent in
Halifax has jumped in the past year, where if you were lucky to have a 2
bedroom apartment for $1000/month; it is now over $1500 a month. The average 2
bedroom is approximately $2000/month. Renovictions are in the news too, where
apartments are renovated, rents raised, and the people who had lived there can
no longer afford to be there. Making minimum wage and working 40hrs a week for
a month is just over $2100 a month. Regular workers are forced farther and
farther from their jobs to find affordable places to live. And places to live
-any kind of place- are in short supply.
Those
who have relationship resources (families, friends, co-workers) have turned to multi-generational
arrangements or communal living out of necessity, whether it is two households
merging and sharing resources, or elders moving in with adult children, or
adult children moving back home. There are people on constant journey: staying
3 months at one friends, then moving to a family member’s house for 3 months,
then to another house for 3 months.
Thinking
about the long view is troubling when facing survival in the present. Security
is for those who have resources and this too can be troubling. How many of you have done the math, to figure
out if you have enough pension to last though to death? And if you live longer
than the age you use to calculate your monthly pension, what then?
The
current reality is that verandas or front porches are inaccessible luxuries, even
balconies are in short supply. A ‘rocking-chair dream’ is beyond comprehendible.
Sitting side-by-side on a park bench is
difficult too, as benches in cities are becoming homes.
As
always, the Bible doesn’t just tell a story, to tell a story; the story has a
moment of turning, where the story and peoples’ understandings are flipped
upside down. In the making of covenant with Abram, God tells Abram that he will
have blood descendants and that there will be a period of 400 years where those
descendants will be slaves. Abram’s prejudice toward ‘slave’ would become
prejudice against his own. God is clarifying that lineage and slave do not
disqualify people from inclusion in God’s covenant family.
By
Jesus’ time, Abram’s descendants had been slaves in Egypt, been exiled/enslaved
to Babylon, Assyria, Persia, and were now living in occupation under the Romans.
The Gospel of Luke continually has Jesus sitting side-by-side with the widow,
the orphan, the sick, the destitute, women.
He tells parables that turn stories upside down, where the theme
includes breaking down prejudice and clarifying that lineage, slave,
marginalized does not disqualify a person from inclusion in God’s covenant
family.
From
today’s reading Luke reminds readers that Jesus is connected to the prophets –
living as a prophetic voice and acting prophetic action. Jesus tells listeners,
“How often I desired to gather your children together as a hen gathers her
brood under her wings, and you were not willing!”
The
marginalized, the precariously housed, those sleeping on the streets, the
underemployed, hear the words as comfort, because they have experienced Jesus
being a mother hen to gather, shelter; giving comfort, hope, and promise to
those who have been excluded from God’s house and covenant people. Those with
resources ignore Jesus, and have no will to listen, because the listeners know the
covenant and the image of God as mother hen is connected to God’s
‘rocking-chair dream.’ The
‘rocking-chair dream’ is about a living covenant: love God, love neighbour.
Early
in the Gospel, Luke provides the theme and direction of the Gospel message by
quoting a passage from Isaiah: the spirit of the Lord anointed me to bring good
news to the poor, proclaim release to the captives, give sight to the blind,
let the oppressed go free, and proclaim year of Lord’s favour. It is a message
that is received by those marginalized; divisive and controversial to those
with resources; and dangerous for those
who act out this Gospel – for Jesus’ it led to capital death.
In
our context, when speaking of those seeking affordable housing, the
precariously housed, the homeless – there is prejudice. God is clarifying that
having resources or a lack thereof does not disqualify someone from inclusion
in God’s covenant family. We are reminded of the importance of relationship –
whether to friends, family, the enslaved, the marginalized- and that
relationship is a resource.
How
can we as individuals and a faithful community be life-giving and provide ALL
with hope: to see and realize comfort and stability, able to participate in the
‘rocking-chair dream?’
Church
relationships, sharing our spaces, being willing to give up personal freedom to
lend a room, rent a room, house relations, immigrants, help youth and seniors
find affordable housing, help off-set rent for someone in the community, offer
a bed for 3 months, loan a trailer, have a live-in caregiver, combine resources
with others, those who live alone consider sharing apartments- so apartments
open up for others; and then outside our own homes to lobby, fill out HRM
visioning surveys, advocate for a living wage, demand affordable housing.
Are
we going to allow the readings from today to unsettle our notions and prejudices?
Are we going to allow the Gospel to up-end our practices to consider housing
ourselves in different ways, to cooperatively act and live to relieve housing
stress?
When
I think about a ‘rocking-chair dream,’ in latter years sitting side-by-side in
another’s company simply taking in the view; in peace, comfort, and contentment
--- I can’t help but think of the sprawling verandas on farm houses where there
is room for more than two rocking chairs. Where there is room for many, many
chairs; many couples, many families, many relations.
This
is the dream, the big picture, God is calling Abram to; calling us to be a part
of;
Building
– a veranda – where all are invited, all are included, to come and relax; in
peace, comfort, and contentment – gathered together under God’s mothering wings.